Terrible Twos Part 2
Avert Annoyances
· Don't give in or back down when tantrums start just to avoid conflict. Giving into their behaviour will not change it in the long run.
· Be consistent, have a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day even during their tantrums.
· Begin to use ‘time-out’ and taking away privileges as discipline techniques.
Don’t shout, but do change the tone in your voice; you need to maintain control and talk in a voice that commands attention for the right reasons.
Give up the Guilt
Don’t allow your child to place a guilt trip on you for having to spend time away from them i.e. work commitments
Communicate with Your partner
· Don’t allow your child to play one parent against the other, always present a united front (even if you disagree behind closed doors)
Try your best not to promise anything to your child; once promised you will have set yourself up for trouble if you cannot deliver; better to say maybe, this then gives you and your partner room to manoeuvre for what ever reason.
Happy times
To help you get through the more difficult times, and to put things in perspective, think about all the wonderful aspects of toddlerdom. You could even write a list to refer to when tantrums and tears get you down.
You might include some of the following:
· Toddlers think parents are the greatest people in the world - as far as they're concerned, you're the centre of the universe. Make the most of this - it might not last for ever.
· Most toddlers cry a lot less than when they were babies.
· You should be getting a better night's rest as sleep patterns are established.
· You may have more time for yourself than you had when he or she was a baby.
· With your toddler around, you have an endless supply of cuddles and affection.
· Their zest and enthusiasm for new discoveries can be infectious. Watch them play with a puzzle and enjoy their delight as they manage to make a piece fit.
· Their perseverance, trying things over and over again, and their sheer determination to master new skills can be thrilling.
· Your toddler's love of silliness and laughter often allows you to be a child again.
Their funny little sayings and expressions can be an endless source of delight.
Ideal children do NOT always agree with their parents. Ideal parenting does not prevent the "Terrible Twos" – but it helps you and your child navigate them.